Self-care is not some new-age BS, it starts with you, today. You may think your primary design as a woman is that of nurturer and carer, but if that comes at the price of forgetting about yourself (like it has been up until now), you will have to reassess your reality for optimal health so stop waiting for someone to give you permission – you deserve your absolute best life, right now.
The only way to have that is by showing up for yourself. Fear-mongering by doctors and older family members who tell you to accept your fate is just that – fear-mongering. Instead, choose yourself and feel good about it.